Question by : How can you convince a friend to leave an extremely abusive relationship?
He strangles her and bites her and she said she thinks he will kill her soon. They have a 3 week old baby.
My friend’s mom took my abused friend to a safe house, but my friend would not stay there. She hasn’t told anyone else about his physical abuse, although everyone suspects it. I told her mom what I know. Her mom askes her every day to “come home” but she won’t leave her abuser. Also, he is a convicted felon who was in prison for armed robbery. My friend has always dated great guys and had good relationships before.
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Answer by Paradise P
Grab her from her hair and drag her to her mom house before it’s TOO LATE! and her 3 months baby, and tell the authority!
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if she loves the baby she will leave if he is doing this to her then weight till the baby is older he will either do the same or get his baby to turn on her i have seen it happen maybe its time to get welfare involved they don’t have to know it was u if they take the baby she may leave to
You really can’t convince her to leave.
Probably your best bet would be to call Child Protective Services. A 3 week baby with an abusive psycho is very dangerous. If they come out and see bruises on the mother, they might do something.
you cannot make your friend do something that she is not willing to do she has not left him because there is something in her that likes what he does to her… hopefully one day she will gain enough respect for her self and leave but until then you cant do anything… try to catch it on tape when she is getting beat and give it to the cops
Sadly, this is something that you cant control. She is not going to leave him until she decides to. You are just going to get all cought up in this mess and possibly end up hurt. My advice to you is that you leave it alone and let her realize what a peice of @*&% this guy is. I have a very close friend who is in a similar relationship and i have been trying to knock some sense into her head for the past four years, She complains to me about how terrible this guy is and when i tell he what I think she finds an excuse for his behavior. I realized that i was wasting time that I could be spending with MY family who is GREAT because i was busy trying to help this chick out. AND AT THE END OF THE DAY SHE IS NOT GOING TO LEAVE HIM. So from me to you , I recomend you stop paying attention to her. If this really bothered her she would do something about it thats the bottom line. And God forbid something happend to her then she brought this upon herself, she knew the type of garbage she was dealing with when she hooked up with him.If she is a minor then her parents need to take charge. As a friend you could only do so much. You cant make her decisions for her. I will keep this situation in my prayers. Best of luck to you and your blinded friend.
I do recommend you find some help for that baby.
well to be honest she probably loves him alot…I know thats hard to believe but i am 17 going on 18 and my mom has been with a guy for almost 6 years that abuses her..I have tried many times to get her to leave him and there are alot of places we can go but she always comes back i am sorry to say this but you cant help her she has to help herself and i know its hard but the worst thing to do is feel sorry for her…but there are things you can do for the baby.. if it is in danger… like call child protection services..
You can not convince a person to leave an abusive relationship. They have to decide that on their own. She has had opportunities to leave but won’t. She will not listen to anyone until something bad has happened to make her understand its an unhealthy relationship and needs to leave. She will dump you as a friend if you keep pressuring her into leaving. A woman who finds herself in this situation will do anything to keep from admitting she married the wrong person and that the signs were there from the beginning.
Report him… You can also send her this link (below). It has a hotline she can call with questions. I hope it helps. Make sure she knows that abuse only gets worse 99% of the time. She might be thinking it will stop someday.