Question by Julep: dating: when to share your secrets?
How long into dating someone new do you think you should wait before sharing more personal information? I think measuring this in days and months won’t work, so lets say – how many good dates or what other new things are going on in the relationship when you think it is time to be more open about things in your life/past etc.
It’s not like I have deep dark ugly secrets (I never killed a man with a grapefruit knife or anything) but you know, most of us have issues in their past or present that we still deal with a little… examples might be (i’m making these up too) abuse in your past or if you used to be an alcoholic or if you are struggling with money more than you let on.
thanks for your insight!
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Answer by Tien D
yo tell him the secrets when hes drunk so he wont remember the next day and try not to get raped
What do you think? Your comment is most welcomed!
When you feel comfortable
I don’t think you can decide that way….I think you will know when the time is right….good luck
A year
You need to keep some, maybe once in a while if he admits his then you let one out, but keep mysterious men love it oddly enough also keeps him learning more about you
iono but guud luck
I found that leaking a little of the secret drew the guy in. He found me exciting and real. Now he knows everything and it’s so cool to have no dangerous territory. He found out everything on probably the 4th date. He thinks my past made me who I am and he’s got the good part of me.
After the second date, when it looks like things may be moving in a serious direction. This way he’ll have all the cards on the table and decides if it’s worth continuing on. He more than likely will continue on with the relationship if he’s a good person.
you don’t have to at all ,,,,look ….what you did in your past is yours;;;; same goes for him;;;;; go live life and have fun,,,,if it don’t work out ”’then do you have to tell the next one …..
well me and my girlfriend started telling secrets after i asked her if she masturbated, which was several months in
there is no “planned” time, it is when you really trust that person alot
I think IT really depends on what it is..Somethings are better left unsaid as later they may use them against you..Lets say you are low on money, he may think you are with him just for money..Or maybe you did drink alot in your past but don’t now,that doesn’t matter as your past is just that your past.You can’t change it you can only move forward.
After you’re married. Seriously. And even then, you don’t have to tell someone everything. Why give away personal information to someone you’re dating anyway? Chances are pretty good, you won’t be with him forever. Consider a messy breakup too, or fights. People, even good people, tend to use what they know about your weaknesses, against you.