Question by I’m a nice person: Atheists: Could you ever love a Christian? How about the other beliefs like Pagans, Wiccans, or maybe even?
someone like Jewish or Muslim or could you love a satanist? Part 2: If you could love someone of different beliefs or ethnicity; could it just be platonic love/friendship or could you choose them as a partner?
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Answer by Grumpity AM Troll Doll
I have… she dumped me for jesus.
But the relationship was tainted a bit. Deep down I always thought she was stupid for believeing in fairy tales. And she always thought I was an evil sinner causing her to sin etc..
I have dated chicks from other religions and its not been problematic but… christians are a no go. Its quite simply against their religion to tolerate someone not of their faith.
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My parents are Christian and fundies so, yes.
As an atheist, I don’t believe that beliefs have anything to do with true love.
Unfortunatly, I know a lot of Christians, who feel the exact opposite.
It depends on exactly how mentally ill they are…
I don’t discriminate… It is just that most people end up proving themselves to be unworthy of my respect…
Sure, I could.
It would be either platonic love/friendship or the love of a partner depending on the person, not their religion/lack of it.
Isn’t that how it works with -everyone-? Or maybe I hope..?
of course they can..
i’m a christian and my atheist boyfriend loves me. so do my atheist friends.
I’ve been in love (and married to) my beautiful (christian) wife for almost 15 years.
We respect each other’s beliefs (or lack thereof).
The whole ‘unequally yoked’ thing is garbage.
Hell yes.
Love doesn’t require the same religious beliefs. And even though I’m atheist/agnostic I’ll still go to church for the wifes’ sake. Besides, if someone truely loves you, they don’t need to be of the same religion.
I have married two and in churches.
My latest has been for over 35 years and we have two adult kids that we are very proud of, why?
My wife continues to go to church and I sometimes accompany her…
Well I love my parent’s and family and some of my many friends who are christian, jewish, hindu and atheist like me. But none of my family and friends claim to know absolutely that they know the truth about god or life after death and so on, if they did I might find them arrogant and have some issue with that.
I could love any of these except a creationist.
Yes I can, yes I have, dated a Christian for a year, and I love Christians and Jews on both levels. Don’t know many Muslims or anything other than Christian/Jew.
-Billy
I did. We were married for 18 years; I put her through 6 years of college, supported her, built her a nice house, put money away for retirement…
So when she finally got a good job after graduating, she found herself a Christian boyfriend, filed for divorce, moved him into my bed, raped my life savings, slandered me and then claimed she was forgiven of her sins by Jesus.
No more Christians. EVER.
my mom is one. shes awesome. the rest of my family, not so much.
You can’t judge a person based solely on one characteristic, so I would say it depends.
My whole family and most of my close friends are Christian, and I love them (as in friendship)
They would need to be tolerant. My way of thinking is basically, don’t try to convert me, and I don’t try to convert you.
Of course, something like religion is major and bound to be the source of a few fights… as long as we could accept each other for who we are and move on, I think yes (for either partner or friend).
Sure, I’ve had several Christian and Jewish gfs. I’ve never knowingly even met a satanist, so I’ve no idea what to expect there!
Generally if the belief is treated as a personal preference, like a hobby, then it’s not a problem. If it is all-encompassing and takes over all aspects of life, then that would be a problem.
The big issue is always if things worked out, what about kids? My attitude would be to educate them and encourage them to think for themselves, and their own beliefs will be their choice. If a partner can cope with that, no problem. If she wants any kids to be indoctrinated (as distinct from educated), then that would be a problem.
So it all depends whether a religious person can be secular in a relationship. I know quite a few couples where that works fine, but also that there are people who would not do that.
What do you think we are? I wouldn’t discriminate on religion unless it was necessary.
I love lots of people who believe stupid things. My sister is a Republican. My middle daughter is a devout Catholic. My best friend a fundamentalist. I give more to money to a Jewish charity than to all other charities combined. I haven’t run into any pagans and wiccans in years, but I’ve liked the ones I’ve known. And I’ve never let race, ethnicity or national origin get in the way of romance. You do occasionally meet otherwise intelligent people who have a self-imposed blind spot when it comes to their religion. Not all religious people are morons. Maybe 80%. The other 20% I actually have a lot in common with because whether they know it now or not, eventually their brain will win the tug-of-war with their superstitions as mine did. But I couldn’t be with someone who rejects evolution and thinks the Noah’s Ark tale is literal. I can tolerate religious, but I can’t deal with stupid.
Good question and yes I have and do . A satanist might be pushing it though . I feel as long as her views on what she believes does not bring harm to anyone . I have no problem with what they believe just so long as she feels the same towards me .
One of my best friends in the world is a hard core Catholic . We dated in high school before my views on region changed . We have stayed very close friends even though she now lives on the other side of the country . We are able to agree to disagree and leave it at that
You have to realize that I have nothing against individuals regardless what they believe . Its the actions they make that can bring my animosity .
Not an atheist – but my fiance is, and I’m a Celtic Reconstructionist. So…. go from there.
Based on previous experience, I’d never date a Muslim or a Christian again. Had WAY too many bad experiences with that.
Otherwise, I don’t care; they could be Pagan, Hindu, Jewish, etc… as long as they aren’t trying to force their religion on me and trying to change me. I tend to date atheists [even if they are atheists that practice a religion]. IDK, being a geek myself I like folks who are into science and science geeks tend to be more atheist.