Question by singledad83: Girl i’ve been dating has kept secrets from me about her past and has lied to me. What to do?
She thought if she told me things about her past that i wouldn’t want to see her anymore. But honestly its not all that bad, just some bad relationships and poor decisions on her behalf. We’ve been friends for almost 3 years and dated one another intimitly a couple of times in between.. It came down to it that she lied to me about her so called best friend ” just being friends nothing more” Come down to it they were intimate before but claims no feelings there and is like a ” brother ” now. well how can someone you slept with be like a brother now and about the secrets and lies?
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Answer by yaknow2
confront her then dump her ass
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If they hooked up b4 you two were together than it shouldnt matter….she’s with you now, so shake it off!
Forget about her.
Three years is a long time and she just wasted it for lying to you.
But, if you don’t care about the lies then stay with her. Or if you are afraid you can’t get with another woman then continue with her.
Just tell her stop being immature and stop playing games. (Only if you plan to stay with her)
Sounds like she was worried about telling you certain things. Everyone has there secrets. It’s not like she lied to you by not telling you something she’d prefer to keep private. Everyone, even the person you’re dating deserves privacy.
So, secrets are fine, lies are not. If you directly asked her a question, she could, of course, decline a response, but if she told you a bogus story, I’d be very annoyed.
Just sit down with her and tell her that you want to know the secrets that could damage your relationship just make sure you tell her your secrets too. God bless
it was in the past…people dont have to disclose every little detail about what went on in their past….
some people feel comfortable talking about their past but there are others that feel that it should b left there…
the fact that you guys are together now should b enough…to avoid all confrontation how about moving forward with the relationship and “let sleeping dogs lye”..
im sure theres things from your past that you havent told her about…
and yes two friends can b intimate at one time and then b like brothers and sister afterwards….
good luck and go on with the future…
Her past is her business, so that shouldn’t be an issue. She isn’t obligated to share her personal experiences with you, just because you are dating.
However, lying isn’t kewl even though I’d guess she did it because she feared it might upset you or cause you to be jealous.
Chances are she was intimate with the guy, and they discovered there was no chemistry and platonic friends is where their situation should stay (thus the “like a brother” comment).
You can be upset about it or not, as you choose…but from your post the only thing I see that you have a right to be upset about, is that she lied.
hmm its hard yeah i slept with a friend but after i wished i hadnt i just shouldnt of so we are still friends and life is like that.you never know who will enter your life and why ask yourself truthfully if you trust her and if so forget her past if not get a move on and start living your life for you.take care
There are somethings you should leave unknown for your own good. if you made a big mistake you should leave it and not let anybody know but id she lied to you then that is something. if keeps telling you lies then you should dump her sorry to say this but you kinda have to dump her. Hope everything goes well!!!
We all have secrets about ours pasts… Past is the past, get over it and move on…..